a flopped....

My fourth paper today.... My design paper was a flopped... still traumatised by the paper... only attempted 50+ marks... listen carefully, ATTEMPTED is the keyword... sounds bad? but uni paper dun seems to be for human to finish

Kindergarten - no test, no quiz, no exam...

Primary school - small time tests and exams... 91 marks for A*... all questions in paper could been completed far within time given and able to geth majority correct.... Studying 2 hour before a paper is possible...

Secondary school - test here and there and also exams.... 75 marks for A1... All the questions in paper could be answered within time... studying 1 or 2 days before paper is possible...

Junior College - common test and exams.... 75 marks for A.. Marjority of the questions can be answered within time.... studying 3-5 days before exam is possible...

University - Quiz here and there... 2 exam every year... 13 weeks per exam... Almost impossible to finish the whole paper... Have got to study weeks in advanced to pass it... to be above pass? attend all lectures and tutorial.... damn...

oh man... how much have i grow with the education system... so tiring every semester in university... every 13 weeks there is like A levels examination going on... oh my oh my....

somewhere within those books...

Buried in those big piles of book...

its exam period and heavy mugging time!! Will be updating less often now... hee... anyway its the second day of examination today and i have finished with 3 papers!!! amazing feat that i achieved... but i am more or less dead... 3 papers in 2 days... and i am left with only a third of my brain cells.... everyone that is having examination --> Good Luck and All the Best!!!! Jiayou!!!

Resolving conflicts

con·flict - A state of disharmony between incompatible or antithetical persons, ideas, or interests; a clash.

Misconception or myths of conflict

1. Many believe conflict if left alone resolves itself… which is rubbish because conflicts can never resolves itself when left alone… normally it will escalates and often becomes unbearable.

2. Most people fear confrontations because most THINK that it is nasty, hostile, personal and destructive… but the truth is conflict usually half resolved by identifying and defining the problem and reaching a agreement to resolve and manage…

3. Conflicts is a sign of low concern for someone… this is totally bullshit because emotional involvement indicate importance of a relationship and the truth is that it helps to clarify emotions and serves to identify underlying issues!

4. The cause of conflict is misunderstanding… this is not always the case because ‘problem’ is often understood but goals different and priorities dun jive..

5. Conflicts always avoidable….. perhaps our culture lead some of us to believe that conflict is unnatural, unproductive and should be eliminated from our relationship but that is NOT TRUE! Because conflict exist in virtually every relationship and it impossible to see eye to eye!

6. Last but not least… Conflicts can always be resolved but that is also NOT TRUE! Not all conflicts can be resolved and the effort is also dependant on desired relationship. It takes two hands to clap and so what if one is willing to resolve the conflict but the other party is not willing at all? Do you think it still can be resolve??!

There have been so much conflicts between people in hall and been hearing so much that makes me sad…. So I decide to take what I learn from managing and resolving conflict course here… anyway its quite disappointing… humans most often expects others to see what they see and hear what they hear… we tends to ASSUME what others thinks… and humans tends to assume all the bad things without asking the other party whats wrong… and there you goes… the conflicts worsen…

There are people in the hall that cherish relationship so much that they give in so much to make things better… but the receiving party just ignore those sign of goodwill to try to save this friendship… and worse, some even take advantage of these kindness… just what the hell are this people thinking? People that try so hard to make things better and there you are using sarcasm tone and words taking advantage of this kindness… why can’t people be more appreciative… take a step back, and take a good look… these could be your true friends that cherish you a lot and you will live to regret when you lose them… when things go wrong why dun you approach that someone and talk it out rather than going around and telling things or rather ASSUMPTIONS about them without clarifying? Are u better in any ways by doing that? perhaps I am not fit to say these but I am just a blogger penning my thoughts… sorry… just my 3cents worth.. anyway I am not mentioning anyone in particular here… if you think I am mentioning you, I am telling you… nope I am not… cos its just some of my thoughts

Got to go back to my books… take care people and study hard for exams!! Jiayou!!

a lost friendship...

sorry peeps, hasn't been updating my blog once again cos exams are nearing... fine, its a excuse... i am plain lazy... haha. Been lazing around quite a lot, trying to study but the concentration dun seems to be there... i know the date to my first paper is nearing... dun worry, i will try harder...

anyway i was reading thru my old entries and looking at all the comments and i thought of a friend... its kind of wierd... he is not a old friend, but not a new friend... a friend that i wish to cherish a lot that distants with me over time.... when i first met him i still remember that i sense a beautiful friendship on its way... it did... the wonderful memories of things we did together.. the fun that we had... but sadly, perhaps its what i done... we begin to distant and even saying hi is wierd to me... by mid semester 1 of my 2nd year... we distant so far apart and i cannot seems to find a reason... i always blame myself for it although i dunno why we distant and i can only make asummptions... this is a friendship i wish to rekindle a lot cos to me he is a true friend... a friend that connect with me so well.... a friend that constantly remind me that i need to study soon cos exam is near... a friend that cares for me so much... and yet i lost him... this is one of my deepest regret so far... cos i lost a true friend, a special friend...... a friendship that i fail to save... and no longer can be save....

Haiz. life goes on.... gonna get back to my books.... for those having exams - good luck! all the best and JIAYOU!!!!